Dear Lovelee: So, 5 months ago I met a guy on Instagram and we started to talk. Ever since we met we have been talking on the phone for like 5 to 7 hours a day and texting nonstop. He lives all the way across the country and we haven't met yet but we definitely have a connection. We are going to see each other this month and I'm so excited/ nervous. Am I stupid for taking this serious? SOS
Hey Girl, Hey!
You are NEVER stupid for taking a chance on love! REMEMBER THAT. I am not sure what you and your new boo discuss, but if a man is spending 5 to 7 hours talking to you on the phone (not texting), then he is definitely into you. I personally measure a man’s interest in me by how much time he gives me. Time is even more valuable than money. Time is something you need, but don’t have an abundance of. If time is wasted it can be detrimental to one’s life and can never be retrieved. If he is giving you allllll that time just on the phone, he is legit into you.
Your new boo living across the country can be seen as a no no to several negative Nancie’s out there, but when you are in your 20’s early thirties, I think it’s great! Your boo gets to visit a new and different state and so do you. You can plan mini getaways just to escape the real world and spend time together. Also, we want our men to miss us, it keeps things spicy. I am personally in a place in my life where I don’t have TONS of time, so I enjoy long distance. I get to stay focused on school, work, and my hobbies while also flirting and getting to know someone via phone and facetime.
The only time the long distance will be an issue is when you get serious about one another and decide to be exclusive. We are at a place in our lives where we should not be wasting our time on people we don’t see a future with. Eventually someone will have to move, that’s way down the line obviously but if you would never leave your hometown and he would never leave his, then it won’t work anyway. If you really like this guy, make sure he really likes you and isn’t looking for a long distance “situationship”. These types of men usually hit you up every blue moon for two weeks straight before they fall off again! When they hit you, its usually around the time that the two of you might be in the same area for some special event.
Another good sign is that he is coming to visit YOU and soon! He is clearly NOT playing! Unless of course he was already coming or decided to come for a special event (I hate this). Your new boo should be coming to see and spend time with you specifically, if not then you are NOT his host, taxi, hotel, etc!
I hope you enjoy your boo time this month, good love luck!