DATING 101: HOW TO HAVE A SUCCESSFUL FIRST DATE
POSTED JULY 17TH, 2017 | BY TIFFANY GARCIA
We’ve all seen or read, “Think Like a Man,” “The 5 Love Languages,” or any other rom com that depicts what finding love is like. In today’s social media era, where females are constantly being compared to Instagram models and men compared to Idris Elba or Chris Brown, it’s almost impossible to find true love.
But let’s stay optimistic. There are some very basic rules of dating that everyone should know. And if you don’t know...now you know.
*Disclaimer: I do not guarantee that if you follow these rules, you will find love. These are simply guidelines to follow. The rest is up to you pal.
DO: Plan an actual date. Find a restaurant, do an outdoor activity, or go to a lookout point and soak in the views while getting to know each other. All it takes is some time and effort. You don’t even have to spend a lot of money on the first date either.
DON’T: Netflix and chill. This is played out. If you can’t plan an actual date, then maybe you shouldn’t be dating.
DO: Think of this as verbal tennis. You ask a question, they ask a question, insert some light humor and this date may end well. And for all you sapiosexuals, this is your forte.
DON’T: Hog the conversation and don’t talk about sex. If this is the only topic you’re able to verbalize – Houston! We have a problem. Also, don’t bring up past relationships. The first date should be light and fun. If this is the person you’re meant to be with, you’ll have an eternity to talk about who did you wrong.
DO: Offer to split it. Nowadays, we’re all struggling to make ends meet and the simple gesture of offering to pay can go a long way.
DON’T: Have expectations that the other person HAS to pay. It may be best to have a conversation about the bill prior to going on the date.
DO: Use them as a reminder of what you want in a relationship and what you don’t want in a relationship.
DON’T: Compare your date to your exes or bring up past relationships in conversation. It’s not fair to your date and more than likely, the evening won’t end well.
Time & Effort.
DO: Be on time. Or if you’re running late, communicate that to your date. You wouldn’t like it if you were waiting for your date, thinking you got stood up.
DON’T: Keep looking at your phone or texting. If you wanted to do that, you could’ve stayed home and saved your date an outfit.
I’m not promising if you do all these things that you’ll find your prince charming or your Beyoncé, but at least you have a fighting chance in this world of instant gratification and Tinder hookups.
“May the odds be ever in your favor.”
Tiffany Garcia is a blogger for CSUITEMUSIC
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